We Can with Two Rules Wednesday-Trusted Adults

Posted by Brenda Yoho
Lead with Two Rules: Feeling Good & Feeling Safe by Brenda Yoho
Be part of the problem or part of the solution, the choice is always yours to make. Official Publication Date February 7th, 2024

In the challenging landscape of a school where at least 75 percent of students are grappling with ongoing trauma, the importance of relationships founded on trust cannot be overstated. These relationships not only contribute to a positive school culture but also serve as a lifeline for students navigating the tumultuous waters of trauma. In our two-rule school, where the majority of students are directly impacted by the pervasive effects of poverty on their families, building trusting connections becomes a critical strategy for fostering resilience.

The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Study, conducted in 1998, marked a pivotal moment in understanding the long-term consequences of childhood trauma. It revealed a concerning correlation between the number of traumatic experiences in childhood and the prevalence of health-damaging behaviors and conditions in adulthood. While critics point to limitations in the study, its groundbreaking revelation of the link between childhood trauma and poor physical health prompted a reevaluation of how we approach the well-being of children.

In our school, where the scars of poverty manifest in the lives of our students, we recognize that the impact of trauma is not confined to the past; it is a daily companion for many. This realization spurred our commitment to creating trusting relationships that act as a buffer against the adversities these students face. The ACEs study may have highlighted the risks associated with childhood trauma, but it also underscored the urgent need for comprehensive strategies to identify and intervene with at-risk children and families.

Despite the criticisms of the ACEs study, its legacy lies in reshaping our perspective on childhood trauma and its lifelong repercussions. As educators, we acknowledge that we cannot erase the trauma from our students' lives, but we can be steadfast, trusted adults for them. Our role extends beyond the classroom; we strive to be a consistent presence, offering stability, predictable reactions, and genuine care to every student who walks through our school doors.

Resilience emerges as a key factor in a child's ability to navigate adversity. A study by the National Health Service of Wales emphasizes the role of trusted adults in cultivating resilience. The findings highlight that access to a trusted adult correlates with increased access to crucial resilience resources, providing a pathway for children to develop skills that serve them well into adulthood.

In our two-rule school, the simplicity of asking, "Will this make me/them feel safe?" and "Will this help me/them feel good?" becomes a powerful tool. These rules not only guide behavior but also lay the groundwork for students to be supportive friends during difficult times. By consistently modeling these rules, our school cultivates a culture where fairness, understanding, and support thrive. Students feel a sense of belonging, know there are adults they can turn to for help, and develop skills that prepare them for a successful adult life.

Can you recall a trusted adult from your childhood? What can you remember about this individual or individuals? How can adults become trusted adults? Share your thoughts.

"I only have 2 rules!"
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