We Can with Two Rules-Choice and Self-Regulate

Posted by Brenda Yoho
Lead with Two Rules: Feeling Good & Feeling Safe by Brenda Yoho
Be part of the problem or part of the solution, the choice is always yours to make.

Embracing a Slow Life: The Art of Choice and Self-Regulation

In a world that constantly races forward, where calendars overflow with obligations, and schedules are crammed to the brim, the importance of embracing a slower pace often gets lost in the chaos. It's in the hurried shuffle of our daily lives that we find ourselves threadbare, with little time to spare for rest, self-care, and most importantly, for others.

The more crammed our schedules, the less room we have to give to those around us when they need it most. In a society where the default setting is set to lightning fast, living a slow life becomes an act of swimming upstream, a conscious choice to prioritize the nooks and crannies for rest and reflection. It's about twisting the dial on our lives to slow, slower, slower, allowing ourselves the space to survive, thrive, and become who we are meant to be. Setting the dial to slower, is not what we have been trained to do. Fast has become a habit we have embraced and want more of as we create additional ways to find more time. AI's emergence exemplifies our pursuit of efficiency, craving swifter solutions in a generation fixated on immediacy. In classrooms, mere lessons won't suffice; the demand is for instant knowledge, effortless comprehension, and swift transitions to the next endeavor.


Life, in essence, is a series of choices. The Lead with Two Rules model, centered on Feeling Good & Feeling Safe, underscores the power of choice in shaping our lives. From an early age, understanding how our choices impact not only ourselves but also those around us becomes foundational. This awareness builds the competencies of self-awareness, social-awareness, self-management, relationship skills, and solution-based decision-making.

The model emphasizes the significance of self-regulation, a key factor in honing the executive functions necessary to be productive and positive contributors to society. By actively choosing a slower pace, we grant ourselves the ability to regulate our actions, make thoughtful decisions, and foster a deeper connection with the world around us.

Creating a life centered on the Lead with Two Rules model is not just about personal well-being; it's about contributing positively to the social fabric. It's a conscious effort to empty ourselves out in sacrifice, to be available for others when they need love, support, or understanding.


In the relentless pursuit of a slow life, the journey may be challenging, especially in a culture that defaults to speed. Yet, the rewards are profound, weaving a drapery of mindful living, meaningful connections, and a sense of purpose that transcends the breakneck speed of modern existence.

Ultimately, life is about making choices, and by choosing a slower pace, we not only enhance our own well-being but also contribute to a more compassionate and connected world. The art of embracing a slow life lies in our hands, as we continually twist the dial on our lives, fostering a mindful existence in the midst of life's rapid currents.


In our lengthy engagement with education (based on over two decades), we've grappled with persistent challenges despite varied approaches. It's crucial to scrutinize our shared societal tapestry to discern the failures we've unwittingly embraced. To foster genuine change, let's collectively reflect, review without biases, and renew our perspective on education, seeking innovative solutions beyond traditional paradigms. When we step back and pull back the tapestry we have woven together, we have been part of the problem without a true solution.

Collaboration is crucial to ensure every student receives a strong foundation and equal resources. Unbalanced funding among schools and teacher strikes hinder valuable learning. Shortages in quality educators and support professionals affect students' development. It's essential to value and prioritize these roles for a better future. Identifiy the value of education for our children as a priority and stop all of the political games which have went on for many decades. This is not a political party problem or solution, but an American one. Let the ego’s go.

"I only have 2 rules!"
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