We Can with Two Rules: Be a Community of Support

Posted by Brenda Yoho

In March of 2024, I published "Lead with Two Rules: Feeling Good & Feeling Safe." Since then, I've had the privilege of discussing its message across numerous platforms, engaging with people who have embraced its principles. Hearing how the book has impacted others, what they've learned, and how they've found the message vital to their lives continues to inspire me every day.

Every encounter, every shared story, encourages me to push harder in supporting others to implement this approach. Our collective effort in creating environments where everyone feels good and safe is crucial. This is a sentiment beautifully echoed in the work of Angel Studios, whose content continually inspires and motivates. I'm eagerly anticipating their upcoming release on July 4th, "The Sound of Hope: The Story of Possum Trot." Based on a true story, it embodies a call to action for all of us to support our children in multifaceted ways.

In Possum Trot, the community rallies together to address the needs of children with an all-in approach. This profound demonstration of unity underscores the importance of the Home-School-Community triad in forming a solid foundation for our children's success. I can't wait to witness how this community's collective effort brought about significant change.

I advocate for the Home-School-Community partnership to provide a strong foundation of support essential for our children's success. In Possum Trot, the community unites to address the needs of 77 children. One of the main characters states, “We want the children, no one else wants.” I eagerly anticipate watching this show and seeing how they achieved such remarkable collaboration.

This community rallied behind the foster care system, providing a beacon of hope for children who felt lost and alone. The children had endured significant trauma, and their ability to trust had been shattered. If you have never been involved with families or children in such situations, watching this film is a must. It offers profound insights and inspiration. I have seen firsthand the shattered pieces of children.


Throughout my career, I have encountered many children and families facing similar struggles. One young man, in particular, holds a special place in my heart. I supported him through various placements over several years until he was finally adopted in middle school. He invited me to attend his adoption at the courthouse and I went.

Today, he serves in the military, and we continue to stay in touch. While writing my book he told me, that I was a mother figure in his life—a sentiment that profoundly touched me and reinforced the power of love and support in transforming lives.

Our children are worth saving, and unlike a dollar left in a savings account to grow passively, they require active investment. Investing time, love, and resources into our children helps them grow into resilient, capable individuals who not only support themselves but also contribute positively to the world. There is so much hope, if we work together to support all of the needs in teaching. Children, like adults can choose. We cannot control what others say and do, but we can teach how to react and respond. Life is not perfect, but it can be improved a great deal if we can begin to teach consistently the practices of Two Rules. My heart still breaks for those who did not make it or have not changed. We need to continue to teach consistently these skills each day and one day, they will wake up to see it.

By adopting the Two Rules of feeling good and feeling safe, we create a nurturing environment where children can thrive. Let us be the community that invests in our children’s futures, ensuring they grow into their full potential. Together, we can build a brighter, more supportive world for all of the generations to come.

What can we do to be a community of support?

  • Establish a Community Support Group
  • Brainstorm together what is needed for the children in the community
  • Build trusted adults-areas for children in the community
  • Develop a community calendar of positive family events (FREE-if possible)
  • Build relationships with School-Home-Community (How can these work together to build a System of Support (SOS) to support children. This is for all children.
  • Celebrations in the community-What are ways to celebrate within the community the values and beliefs?
  • Getting to know everyone events-Where do I go if I need help with??

You can add to this growing list of what community can do together. I have thousands of ideas and you can reach out to me if you would like some help in beginning to brainstorm. Involve every level of the community: Police, School leaders, Mayor’s Office, Fire Department, Business Owners, Medical Facilities and so on.

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