The Question is?-Feeling Good

Posted by Brenda Yoho

As the author of "Lead with Two Rules: Feeling Good & Feeling Safe," I am deeply committed to the message and practices outlined in this book. At this time, I am not looking to publish another book, as my focus is entirely on implementing the principles of this book effectively.

One of the key aspects I emphasize is the importance of understanding what it truly means to feel good. This concept holds different meanings for various individuals, including staff members, students, families, and community members. When we delve into discussions about feelings, we often uncover a wide range of factors that contribute to feeling good.

For me, feeling good encompasses a sense of happiness, fulfillment, and being valued. It involves positive self-esteem, how we perceive ourselves, and the way others perceive us. Our internal dialogue and the messages we convey to others about themselves play a significant role in shaping how we feel. It also reminds us of the power we have with influencing others by the choices we make. Our words have great power as well as the actions we take.


As children, many of us were taught the phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me." However, this is far from the truth. Words and actions can deeply impact our emotions and well-being. Therefore, it is essential to address how we respond to both external influences and our own self-talk.

Instead of reacting impulsively based on emotions, which often leads to negative outcomes, we should focus on proactive and constructive responses. By understanding the power of words and actions in influencing how we feel, we can work towards creating environments where everyone feels valued, respected, and safe.

In essence, "Lead with Two Rules: Feeling Good & Feeling Safe" encourages a shift from reactive behaviors to thoughtful responses, fostering a culture of empathy, understanding, and positive communication. It is through these practices that we can create lasting and meaningful change in our schools, communities, and beyond.

My question for today is one that delves into the core of our well-being: Do you feel good? How do you define feeling good? I invite all of you to share your thoughts and perspectives on this topic.

Feeling good encompasses a spectrum of emotions, from joy and contentment to peace and confidence. It's about more than just a fleeting moment of happiness; it's about a deeper sense of fulfillment and positivity in our lives.

If you find yourself not feeling good, I encourage you to reflect on why that might be. Is it due to external circumstances, internal struggles, or a combination of both? Sharing your feelings can be a powerful step towards understanding and addressing them.

Remember, you are not alone in your journey towards feeling good. There are many professionals trained to help with specific needs, whether they be related to mental health, emotional well-being, or personal challenges. Reach out, seek support, and believe in the possibility of finding solutions that work for you.

I often use the term "we" because I believe in the power of collective action. It takes a community, a team, a network of support to navigate life's challenges and triumphs. You are never alone, and you should never feel that way. Together, we can find the strength, resilience, and solutions needed to overcome any obstacles we face.

Chapter 6 in Lead with Two Rules is dedicated to using teams. A team approach was something I experienced and utilized throughout my professional career. It is best practice for finding solutions.

"I only have 2 rules!"
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