I don’t know about you, but I can have some crazy talks with myself! I can talk myself into, and out of some situations I never thought I would be in my life. Negative self-talk can be very harmful!

During our last vacation with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law, my husband and brother-in-law thought it was fun to call me different names based on my response to things. “Well, hello Karen,” when I was sharp in my response. “Thank you, Pudding, when I was thoughtful in my response.” All in their interpretation of coarse! We would all laugh and have fun with all of it. However, some individuals have a very difficult time getting themselves out of the cycle of negativity. Getting to know yourself is a priority.

As an educator, I know how much we take home with us each day. Children are not little boxes we stuff things into each day. We build relationships with each one of them and are connected with families. When we see children having difficulties we do everything we can to help pull them up and sometimes it is not enough.

I have told many students to remember, “I will never give up on you.” Many of them gave up on themselves and had no one to continue to support them during challenging times. It hurts educators when a child is lost, no matter their age when life is taken.

Our message is to never give up on you! Always reach out for help when you need it. Remember, there is no need to look back through the rearview mirror, but don’t forget all those who loved you in the places you left. The windshield is big and broad with many places to go. There are many people to get to know and to share life’s journey with as you spread the wealth of knowledge you have in not giving up on being the solution daily in a world that needs you.

Today in my blog post, I posed the question of who you are. I wanted those who vied the post to share an I am statement. I am a caring learner. I am physically fit. I am spiritual.

I shared in my weekly post that I would begin a “Stamping to Connect” project with my grandchildren. I have gathered all of my materials, and I am ready to start. So, I will share with you a few of the items I have collected and my approach to connecting.


Understanding Self

Along our life journey, I believe we are continually growing and developing who we are as individuals. Can you reflect on your childhood days, and if someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, what would you say? I believe it is becoming harder and harder for children to cut through all of the noise adults have created to determine The who, what, how, when and why of growing up in this age of “unknowns” or “continuous changes.” I cannot keep up with all of the changes which are happening.

Brains begin developing at conception, and it takes all of us to support positive brain development. Have you asked your children what they want to be when they grow up? I ask my grandchildren, but I will ask again to see if there have been any changes. Our middle grandchild wants to go professional with his athletic talents in two sports areas. He has high expectations. Our oldest grandchild, as a young child, was always interested in rocks and wanted to be part of researching rocks. Now, I believe she is interested in serving others, maybe as a teacher. Our youngest is interested in driving a big dump truck. He loves building and making things. It will be engaging to see what they have to say about who they want to become.


Ask yourself, your team members, your family, or the classroom who they want to become. Begin with a discussion about people they admire, qualities these individuals have, and the careers or positions they have. When we discover the answers to these questions, we can reflect on what we are doing to help us achieve the goal of being who we want to be and add a goal at a time to work towards becoming.

Questions to ask


If you are interested in learning more about yourself, a free personality test is something you can also do. I did this one, and it is interesting to do. I found it to be vital and supportive of myself.

When facing each day filled with many arrows of fear, negativity, anger, and hatred, it is easy to miss those full of love, positivity, hope, encouragement, and joy.

As you step out of bed, you have a critical source of love that is a constant source of love, who will always protect, forgive and bring hope is the best way to fight the arrows that fire in your direction. The shied of courage full of love is the best protection you will find for fighting the sources trying to push you down.


Begin each day with a recharge of courage in knowing you are never alone. Take each step with confidence. Surround yourself with others who believe as you do. Know each day will get better as we take action steps to be the solution daily in our modeling, in our positive words, in those we choose to lead, and in all of the areas we help support.

Show the world how to dance in a world that has forgotten the song's rhythm we should be dancing to and singing. We all need to love our country, neighbors, and ourselves.

As a Nation, we have faced many challenges and overcome many obstacles. Throughout history I have been amazed by the many stories of courageous men and women who have exceeded expectations. I have been blessed to meet individuals who have survived being captured as a prisoner of war, a woman who survived the Holocaust to teach me lessons, and those who have survived trauma words could not describe.

A poem written by Charle Osgood called Pretty Good is something I have shared before, but something I feel we should look at again as we have a “quiet quitting” going on right now. I wonder what the individuals I have met who survived horrific traumas would think? They have since passed on to the next life journey, but it is something I wish I could ask them.


Quiet Quitting

“Quiet Quitting” became the next phase after the “Great Resignations.”

The pandemic caused a lot of people to reevaluate their lives. They looked at what they were doing with their jobs. MagnifyMoney a personal finance site reported roughly 1 in 3 workers considered leaving their jobs and 60% were rethinking their careers.

The lockdowns had many working from home and they did not want to go back to commuting, preferred the flexibility of remote work and wanted to at least consider doing a combination of both. Others were burned out or what I call, “Drainout” after trying to balance logging in long hours, child care, remote school and balancing all of life at the same time.

Quiet Quitting is doing the bare minimum at work. It’s doing only what is required of you without actually telling your boss you are leaving or quitting your job. It means you are finishing your work on time every day, you are taking lunch breaks and scheduled breaks, you turn down projects that are outside of your job, do not sign up for extra duties and stay within your area. Does this sound like it is a bad idea? Experts provide their opinions on the subject and I have mine as well.


I grew up watching my parents work very hard for everything they had, but also how generous they were to give to others who were in need. My parents faced many challenges to try to overcome in order to succeed in day to day life. All of this was etched into my heart and soul as I grew to know, working hard and to never settle was the way we did things.

As an educator, a poem found it’s way into my life that described to me the perfect lesson we all needed. We need to always remember, pretty good is not what we strive for in our work, life or country. “When doing arithmetic problems, Pretty good was regarded as fine. 5+5 needn’t always add up to be 10; A pretty good answer was 9.” If we settled for “Pretty Good” we would never be complete.

Pretty Good Poem by Charle Osgood is one of those poems I love to look back at to remind myself to never settle for “Pretty Good.” Always strive to be great at what we do. It is not how much money we make, it is not in the awards we receive or the validation we may be given. The value in what we do is what we give to it as we see, know and feel in watching, knowing and believing what will happen because of the actions we took.

“There once was a pretty good nation
Pretty proud of the greatness it had,
Which learned much too late,
If you want to be great,
Pretty good is, in fact, pretty bad.”

To be loved, feel loved, and understand love, love must be given to the self. Loving yourself provides self-confidence and self-worth. A feeling of positivity, happiness, and overall wellness happens when individuals embrace the love of self.

When individuals accept their emotions for what they are, it motivates them to make healthy choices in life. When self is held in high esteem, you're more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well.

Confidence comes from within, and this is discovered when you genuinely love yourself. No one can make you feel good or happy as you can. When you have confidence, there is less pressure to do things just to be liked or to please others, and caring less about the opinions of others gives freedom to be authentic and genuine and to walk the journey designed by self.

"I only have 2 rules!"
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