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If you do not have trust in any relationship or environment, there is no chance it will last or work.

Have you ever worked in an environment where you did not trust those you worked with or worked for? If you have, you know exactly how it feels. While listening to an individual tell her story of the situation she had just been through, as tears formed in her eyes, my heart sank. No one needs to ever go through a time when they feel like this, making a choice over themselves or those they serve and deciding who they can trust.

It isn't easy in your work life when there is no trusting environment. You do not feel like you can take those risks to do extraordinary things for those you serve. Sometimes you are asked to do things you know are not right. What do you do when your boss tells you to do something you know is incorrect, does not follow legal guidelines, and is not in the best interest of those you serve? Do you do it to keep your job or not?


In the business world, education, and organizations, people work with us based on our reputations. It takes years to build up who we are, our beliefs, and our core values. Can an individual have enough influence to make others believe something untrue about you? I found an article that is not something I would typically select to read. However, it was fun to read, and the points below come from the article.

How do you know if your boss is working against you?

I have to say, I have had a boss with most of the above points. The article provides information on how to deal with these points. Excuse the language, especially in the title. It does get your attention.


Trust is an integral part of every relationship. As a boss or leader, you are gaining the trust of those you serve and it is the most crucial part of your work. Keeping that trust is what you work to do each day. When you are working in a high-stress level job or doing a job where knowing those above you and beside you will be there to support you is critical.

Everyone wants to feel good and safe while working to accomplish those two needs; trust has to be present. A friend shared the graphic below, and I think it represents leadership. What it should be and should not be.

You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.

Matthew 5:14

One of my rules is about feeling safe. As a child, I was terrified of the dark. When the lights went out, I could not see, and what I could not see scared me. How I did not know in reality, even when the light is on, there are things we cannot see we should be terrified of.

We’ll leave the light on for you. Is it an excellent marketing hit for what hotel chain? It is the best phrase and the spokesman Tom Bodett has the perfect tone of voice to capture the emotion the advertisers want.


At this moment, there seems to be a spotlight being used to flash from this political talking point to the next. Some politicians change their points of view based on polling numbers and then personal attacks on each other. I know I have watched these things happen before in my decades of life, but today they seem to be a little more dangerous.

My heart broke as we flipped on the TV going through stations, and saw a report of several people killed. The shooter had been killed in the process, he was 15 years old. Then another story I read about police officers responding to an emergency call of domestic violence which could have been just a way to get them to come so they could be attacked. Why so much anger?


Another spotlight is shining brightly on education. It should be! I am a retired educator and I have always wanted more attention on education, someone to look at the equity of the funding for education and to look at how we support education overall.

Starting my career as a Teaching Assistant and ending as the Director of Educational Support Programs, I have been blessed to see through the lenses of many. I have been in rural schools, urban schools, high-poverty schools, and diverse schools, and I have worked with gifted students and special needs students. However, the spotlight is shining with a twist on education.

What is happening in education, to education, and with education?


Parents should be involved! Students should be concerned! The community should be involved! “Education is something we do with children, not to them.” My Two Rule philosophy includes partnerships of home-school-community. The center of the philosophy is the child. Children are developing and growing on a life-long journey. Our responsibility is to provide a strong foundation of skills to help them reach the highest possible levels and to provide a pathway to success.

Now that the light is on education, it is time to show what you need, what you are doing, and how you will build partnerships to achieve for the students you serve. Step into the light and make your voice heard to push back on the positives you are doing. It is time to let your light shine bright! Please let me know if I can help you. Education for all children is essential to all of us.

Dwight D. Eisenhower wrote, “Freedom has its life in the hearts, the actions, the spirit of men and so it must be daily earned and refreshed — else like a flower cut from its life-giving roots, it will wither and die.”

The freedoms we enjoy are the responsibility of each blessed to receive them. Throughout history, in all lands, and nations around the world, there is always one common thread individuals seek to receive, freedom.

Often the day is filled with busy lists of tasks, noises of voices needing our attention, and the daylight elapsed before we have time to pause.

For this moment in time, pause. There is not one individual without sin, no country without mistakes, and always a way to rise to overcome. History describes the many times overcoming trials, tribulations, and terrible storms. Our nation needs to return to repair the foundation built for life, liberty, one nation under God, peace, and most importantly, safety and protection for ALL.

Prayers for the direction of our country for all of our leaders are needed. Emotions, Ego, Power and Politics are driving decisions at this time. Take a step back away from the daily doses and identify what needs we have as a country united, not divided.

My faith is my compass; my heart is full of love to encourage as God has directed, and the word of God fills my mind with truth to fuel my journey. Courage is provided to each of us who have accepted Jesus to defend the rights and the one nation under God we are blessed to have.

Praise God daily for all you have today. Please remember more than one person paid the price with their life for you to have the freedoms you enjoy. Looking back in history is for learning, not for judgment. Judgment has been done, and lives have paid the price with penalties and rewards. Just as we drive our cars with the broad windshield in front of us with a wide view of possibilities, we look at our future similarly. Minimizing our lives with a rearview mirror limits the capabilities we have.

Be the solution daily in a nation that needs you as we look through the windshield of building a stronger foundation of one nation under God.

Can you look at this picture and find the mistakes? When you look at this sentence, can you find the errors? I can remember being asked to watch a short video and to watch how many times the ball was passed. Then after the video was over, the question was, did you see a gorilla? What? Are you good at seeing illusions? What are the points to all of these things that are asked of us?

We look for the bonfire; we miss the candle. We listen for the shout; we miss the whisper. Are these points we miss? What points are we missing?

Luke 12:15 — “Keep your eyes open and guard against every sort of covetousness, because even when a person has an abundance, his life does not result from the things he possesses.”

Having desires for the things we need in life is normal. We are motivated to work to provide for ourselves. If we can compare the differences between everyday needs and greed, we can easily see the unbalance. When we are camping we need a small campfire to keep us warm and to cook our food. This is a controlled need. Greed is something that is destruction and out of control. So let's review how we think about preparing for the camping trip.

Instead of wanting to gather a small amount of wood for our little fire, our greed to have the biggest and best fire may cause us to make some careless mistakes. Then before we know it, a fire is out of control, creating a blazing fire destroying the forest. This example may be slightly exaggerated, but I am sure we can find other measures to help us not “miss the point.”



The Little Red Hen first published in 1874, this folk tale teaches children the value of hard work and self-reliance. In the story, the little red hen finds a grain of wheat and asks the other barnyard animals “Who will help me plant the wheat?” The response “Not I” said the cat, “Not I” said the dog, “Not I” said the pig. So the Little Red Hen said “Then I will plant the seed myself” and she did.

As the pages reveal, the stages of the planting the seed to making the bread requires several steps (harvest, milling and baking the flour to make the bread). At each of the stages the hen asks the 3 animals for help in the process, and each time the animals reply with the same response “Not I” said the cat, “Not I” said the dog, “Not I” said the pig.

The final stage when the bread was baked, the hen asks, “Now, who will help me eat the bread?” The animals quickly responded with saying yes, I will. The hen looked at them and replied with “No, you did not help plant, harvest, mill, or bake the bread.” The Little Red Hen ate the bread and feed her chicks.

This is a favorite story from childhood, part of the Golden Book series and was a Walt Disney animated film, The Wise Little Hen (1938). As a child I would receive one of the Golden Books each month. The lessons in the books provided points for children to learn. The point to this book is a simple lesson of responsibility and also of helping others. “The fruit of your labor pays off, as you are able to eat with your hard work.” Are we teaching these lessons today or are we missing the point? What are the points we are receiving?

2 Thessalonians 3:10
Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: "Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.”

A little reflection on what we teach, preach, speak, and model to make sure we are not “missing the point” to help our children grow to develop the core values they need. When you scroll through the posts you can find individuals who believe money, status, power or any “thing” is what matters in life. Having more of it is what will make them happy.

"I only have 2 rules!"
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