I can’t control the weather, but I can control____________________.
I can’t control what people say, but I can control _________________.
Some things I used to love to do, but I don’t do anymore______________.
When I was in school, I ____________________________.
If I could change one thing today, I would_______________________.
The best part of my job is__________________________.
If everyone knew_________________________________, they may______________________________________.
Try making up a sentence to ask others to complete. Find out what others like, what they want to change, and other thoughts.
Some things I used to love to do, but I don’t do anymore is roller skate. (Way to old!)
If you do not have trust in any relationship or environment, there is no chance it will last or work.
Have you ever worked in an environment where you did not trust those you worked with or worked for? If you have, you know exactly how it feels. While listening to an individual tell her story of the situation she had just been through, as tears formed in her eyes, my heart sank. No one needs to ever go through a time when they feel like this, making a choice over themselves or those they serve and deciding who they can trust.
It isn't easy in your work life when there is no trusting environment. You do not feel like you can take those risks to do extraordinary things for those you serve. Sometimes you are asked to do things you know are not right. What do you do when your boss tells you to do something you know is incorrect, does not follow legal guidelines, and is not in the best interest of those you serve? Do you do it to keep your job or not?
In the business world, education, and organizations, people work with us based on our reputations. It takes years to build up who we are, our beliefs, and our core values. Can an individual have enough influence to make others believe something untrue about you? I found an article that is not something I would typically select to read. However, it was fun to read, and the points below come from the article.
How do you know if your boss is working against you?
I have to say, I have had a boss with most of the above points. The article provides information on how to deal with these points. Excuse the language, especially in the title. It does get your attention.
Trust is an integral part of every relationship. As a boss or leader, you are gaining the trust of those you serve and it is the most crucial part of your work. Keeping that trust is what you work to do each day. When you are working in a high-stress level job or doing a job where knowing those above you and beside you will be there to support you is critical.
Everyone wants to feel good and safe while working to accomplish those two needs; trust has to be present. A friend shared the graphic below, and I think it represents leadership. What it should be and should not be.
I don’t know about you, but I can have some crazy talks with myself! I can talk myself into, and out of some situations I never thought I would be in my life. Negative self-talk can be very harmful!
During our last vacation with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law, my husband and brother-in-law thought it was fun to call me different names based on my response to things. “Well, hello Karen,” when I was sharp in my response. “Thank you, Pudding, when I was thoughtful in my response.” All in their interpretation of coarse! We would all laugh and have fun with all of it. However, some individuals have a very difficult time getting themselves out of the cycle of negativity. Getting to know yourself is a priority.
As an educator, I know how much we take home with us each day. Children are not little boxes we stuff things into each day. We build relationships with each one of them and are connected with families. When we see children having difficulties we do everything we can to help pull them up and sometimes it is not enough.
I have told many students to remember, “I will never give up on you.” Many of them gave up on themselves and had no one to continue to support them during challenging times. It hurts educators when a child is lost, no matter their age when life is taken.
Our message is to never give up on you! Always reach out for help when you need it. Remember, there is no need to look back through the rearview mirror, but don’t forget all those who loved you in the places you left. The windshield is big and broad with many places to go. There are many people to get to know and to share life’s journey with as you spread the wealth of knowledge you have in not giving up on being the solution daily in a world that needs you.
As a Nation, we have faced many challenges and overcome many obstacles. Throughout history I have been amazed by the many stories of courageous men and women who have exceeded expectations. I have been blessed to meet individuals who have survived being captured as a prisoner of war, a woman who survived the Holocaust to teach me lessons, and those who have survived trauma words could not describe.
A poem written by Charle Osgood called Pretty Good is something I have shared before, but something I feel we should look at again as we have a “quiet quitting” going on right now. I wonder what the individuals I have met who survived horrific traumas would think? They have since passed on to the next life journey, but it is something I wish I could ask them.
“Quiet Quitting” became the next phase after the “Great Resignations.”
The pandemic caused a lot of people to reevaluate their lives. They looked at what they were doing with their jobs. MagnifyMoney a personal finance site reported roughly 1 in 3 workers considered leaving their jobs and 60% were rethinking their careers.
The lockdowns had many working from home and they did not want to go back to commuting, preferred the flexibility of remote work and wanted to at least consider doing a combination of both. Others were burned out or what I call, “Drainout” after trying to balance logging in long hours, child care, remote school and balancing all of life at the same time.
Quiet Quitting is doing the bare minimum at work. It’s doing only what is required of you without actually telling your boss you are leaving or quitting your job. It means you are finishing your work on time every day, you are taking lunch breaks and scheduled breaks, you turn down projects that are outside of your job, do not sign up for extra duties and stay within your area. Does this sound like it is a bad idea? Experts provide their opinions on the subject and I have mine as well.
I grew up watching my parents work very hard for everything they had, but also how generous they were to give to others who were in need. My parents faced many challenges to try to overcome in order to succeed in day to day life. All of this was etched into my heart and soul as I grew to know, working hard and to never settle was the way we did things.
As an educator, a poem found it’s way into my life that described to me the perfect lesson we all needed. We need to always remember, pretty good is not what we strive for in our work, life or country. “When doing arithmetic problems, Pretty good was regarded as fine. 5+5 needn’t always add up to be 10; A pretty good answer was 9.” If we settled for “Pretty Good” we would never be complete.
Pretty Good Poem by Charle Osgood is one of those poems I love to look back at to remind myself to never settle for “Pretty Good.” Always strive to be great at what we do. It is not how much money we make, it is not in the awards we receive or the validation we may be given. The value in what we do is what we give to it as we see, know and feel in watching, knowing and believing what will happen because of the actions we took.
“There once was a pretty good nation
Pretty proud of the greatness it had,
Which learned much too late,
If you want to be great,
Pretty good is, in fact, pretty bad.”
To be loved, feel loved, and understand love, love must be given to the self. Loving yourself provides self-confidence and self-worth. A feeling of positivity, happiness, and overall wellness happens when individuals embrace the love of self.
When individuals accept their emotions for what they are, it motivates them to make healthy choices in life. When self is held in high esteem, you're more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well.
Confidence comes from within, and this is discovered when you genuinely love yourself. No one can make you feel good or happy as you can. When you have confidence, there is less pressure to do things just to be liked or to please others, and caring less about the opinions of others gives freedom to be authentic and genuine and to walk the journey designed by self.