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As an educator, I was widely recognized for my positive attitude, ability to motivate others, and my knack for storing away little things that would benefit those around me. It was never a question for me about what I would receive; rather, my focus was always on what I could give to others.

Being a leader in any field means being tested each day, and there will always be individuals who attempt to chip away at the very foundation you stand on. However, it is crucial never to let the voices of a few drown out the needs of the many. I vividly remember one particular day, which happened to be the worst in my entire educational career. Typically, I refrained from sharing the details of my day with my family, but this time it was different. I felt compelled to open up to my husband and daughter. As I stood in the kitchen, he came in to see what I was doing. I told him, "Tomorrow is conferences, and I promised the staff that I would bring in a cheeseball, crackers, and other food."

No matter the circumstances, it is crucial to give your all. The negative voices are always just a few who see the world through a narrow lens. By being transparent in your work and consistently adhering to your principles, approaches, policies, actions, and procedures, you can foster unity. Remember, united we stand, and divided we fall. Each day, strive to be part of the solution in a world that desperately needs all of us to contribute and give back to others.

To my surprise, my husband looked at me with fury in his eyes and said, "Are you crazy? After what they did to you today! You're going to work tonight, after a long day, to make them food to eat? I would tell them to **** off!" I apologize for not being able to repeat all the words he used. In response, I calmly said, "I refuse to let a few individuals change who I am as a person. I have done nothing wrong, and I will continue to be true to myself. I will always follow through on my commitments."

Your core beliefs, values and dedication will shine brightly even on the darkest days.

A compass provides us with the knowledge of the direction we are traveling. The choice of our direction is the responsibility of the one who holds it.

Acceptance of the decisions made in the past are mine; I embrace them and learn from them as I continue to move forward. The compass does not revisit steps already taken but moves to the steps to take. These steps are my choices, responsibility, and solutions.

The future is the path before me and will not be trouble-free. My decisions will not all be correct, as I will make mistakes, but they are mine to make right. I will work mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and educationally to prepare myself to open my mind to all of the choices.

Do emotions affect or effect?

All of us work hard to make sure our emotions do not interfere when making decisions. As educators, a rubric is created to follow to apply a non-biased look at student work being evaluated. As a judge of essays for a scholarship each year, our committee utilizes this process of checking essays with a rubric. However, not all of the essays seem to be following the same guidelines from the rubric. We always ask if everyone is receiving the same rubric and information. The answer is always yes, but we still see many missing parts of the items named on the rubric.

Affect is usually a verb, and it means to impact or change. Affect is "to produce an effect upon," as "the weather affected her mood."

The effect is a noun and a change resulting from the action. Effect is that “computers have had a huge effect on our lives.”


To affect something is to change or influence it, and an effect is something that happens due to a cause.

Emotion and Rational Decisions

We have a wide range of emotions we experience, and depending on the level of these emotions, our decision-making is influenced. If you are angry, you can be impatient and make a rash decision. Excitement can lead to quick decisions without thinking clearly through or considering any consequences. Then if you are feeling afraid, your decisions may take longer as you are clouded with uncertainty, caution, and unknowns.

Deep thought is what I think of when I think about decision-making. It is a rational process in which many details are looked at to determine the best way to achieve or accomplish the goal.

This process was brought to my attention when some close people to me needed to decide whether to take a job in another state or remain where they are currently. They are in their upper 50s and know they would love to retire to the state the job offer is in, but do they take this chance at this time? How will it affect and effect them?


What are some of the decisions you are currently making? Do you have a process you use when making a decision?

Steps in making a decision


The people close to us making a life-changing decision are still pondering the decision. We understand the time they need to weigh all the positives, negatives, and possibilities. We support them in any decision they make and actively tell them we will not say or do anything to affect their decision. This is a decision they can only make. Their move will not affect our ability to be part of their lives as we will continue to travel to see them, and they can do the same. The only effect is in the decision to take the job or stay.

"I only have 2 rules!"
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